Parameters in life you want to track, track rather the extreme cases. If you want to track say your level of stupidity, you can track the wisdom of yourself continously, or rather pay attention to extremely smart,stupid things. This is a bettere way to balance
Or say you want to track the level of your thirst. You can try to look for weak signs, or use mainoy the extreme signs, namely when ou feel obviously thirsty or obviously saitated. (when drinking after feeling very thirsty, yiu may want to drink until yiu are very satiated)
Monday, December 6, 2010
Two ways to fill a bath
Two ways to fill a bath
You can fine tune the warmth mix to fit exactly to your taste. It involves the very exact measure, is boring and does not account to changes (water temperature in tap and in bath changes throughout filling). But You can put an approximate mix, and when the water becomes too hot or cold change the temperature to the opposite direction.
This trick works for many things. Instead of fine tuning loneliness vs. Being with people, one may push to one direction, and when feeling fed up going extreme to the other direction for balance.
Filling that way has many advantages. It is more fun. You always have only one thing in your mind, the direction, whereas with fine-tuning, you need to hold constantly in mind both directions and the complex conditionals by which you should measure all the time.
Local ine sided direction allows you to u fully and intuitively the full current situationand conditions, whereas fine-tuning requires you to consider the LNG term strategy all the time (because you all the time work on the long term optimization formula)
So now I realized that I am underweight, I am single-mindedly aiming to eat. Two days pass, my stomach is tired, I single-mindedly to relax stomach (note tha earlier goals are not deleted, nor heavily factored in, just that I have something new now. Probably these older decisions are somehow there anyway and will showbup somehow)
You can fine tune the warmth mix to fit exactly to your taste. It involves the very exact measure, is boring and does not account to changes (water temperature in tap and in bath changes throughout filling). But You can put an approximate mix, and when the water becomes too hot or cold change the temperature to the opposite direction.
This trick works for many things. Instead of fine tuning loneliness vs. Being with people, one may push to one direction, and when feeling fed up going extreme to the other direction for balance.
Filling that way has many advantages. It is more fun. You always have only one thing in your mind, the direction, whereas with fine-tuning, you need to hold constantly in mind both directions and the complex conditionals by which you should measure all the time.
Local ine sided direction allows you to u fully and intuitively the full current situationand conditions, whereas fine-tuning requires you to consider the LNG term strategy all the time (because you all the time work on the long term optimization formula)
So now I realized that I am underweight, I am single-mindedly aiming to eat. Two days pass, my stomach is tired, I single-mindedly to relax stomach (note tha earlier goals are not deleted, nor heavily factored in, just that I have something new now. Probably these older decisions are somehow there anyway and will showbup somehow)
Cruciality of switching off to the nirmal life after work
Most of us get killed at the job. It is not about suffering per se. It is about the killing of the soul. Of adopting a helpless attitude, and a powerless passive soulless way of thinking.
The trick is that when one is out of work, to create a life of a real person. To be hapoy in this time.
Ps.
Needed actions
Reenergize after work (nap, relaxation, caffeine)
Create a cognitive and emotional world for life that is different,
Obviousley, build an undestructible wall that blocks any reminders of work in the non work time. (the personal phone and email shiuld not be known to work people)
The trick is that when one is out of work, to create a life of a real person. To be hapoy in this time.
Ps.
Needed actions
Reenergize after work (nap, relaxation, caffeine)
Create a cognitive and emotional world for life that is different,
Obviousley, build an undestructible wall that blocks any reminders of work in the non work time. (the personal phone and email shiuld not be known to work people)
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Would women want kids if there was no age limit?
Imagine that age 45 (hence 40 and stress starts at 32) would not be there, and kids could be made at any age.
How much of the want for children comes from the fear that the time will be too late.
When talking to women, i hear this theme again and again
Then there is the fear of later regret. "i will sure regret it later", and horror stories about women who later regretted it. (there is a little bit of research claiming that this is not so). What a point is theree to decide according to the fear that may e later it will be regretted. Clearly any decision can be regretted, but the only consideration should be those pertinent to the issue. Do i think children will be good for me? Etc. Not whether I will regret etc.
Another fear drive is the imagination that those without children are lonely and sad at old age. A fear factor. There is research showing that are not entirely lonely do not earn much from the contact of the children at old age. It is mainly those who are entirely lonely who earn much from weekly visits of their children (let alone the fact that many children do it visit their aging parents.....)
A strong missing point here is the stupidity of how we think about decisions. At age thirty one considers having or not having kids. Assume that for the next twenty years it is wish not to have children, but for age 60-70 it has some use, but much lower than the cost imposed in age 30-50.
Our guy decides logically to avoid the disadvantageous deal. Times moves and he is now 60, and now he misses having kids. Should he regret it? Not if he has some common sense. He did exactly what reasons says, he won many years of no interruptions etc. Yet now he does get what he would. Have got for a supreme inflated price of many years.
It is very human pain this. But this is stupid.
Calculating is later stupidity when deciding and going therefore for a bad deal is doubly stupid.
How much of the want for children comes from the fear that the time will be too late.
When talking to women, i hear this theme again and again
Then there is the fear of later regret. "i will sure regret it later", and horror stories about women who later regretted it. (there is a little bit of research claiming that this is not so). What a point is theree to decide according to the fear that may e later it will be regretted. Clearly any decision can be regretted, but the only consideration should be those pertinent to the issue. Do i think children will be good for me? Etc. Not whether I will regret etc.
Another fear drive is the imagination that those without children are lonely and sad at old age. A fear factor. There is research showing that are not entirely lonely do not earn much from the contact of the children at old age. It is mainly those who are entirely lonely who earn much from weekly visits of their children (let alone the fact that many children do it visit their aging parents.....)
A strong missing point here is the stupidity of how we think about decisions. At age thirty one considers having or not having kids. Assume that for the next twenty years it is wish not to have children, but for age 60-70 it has some use, but much lower than the cost imposed in age 30-50.
Our guy decides logically to avoid the disadvantageous deal. Times moves and he is now 60, and now he misses having kids. Should he regret it? Not if he has some common sense. He did exactly what reasons says, he won many years of no interruptions etc. Yet now he does get what he would. Have got for a supreme inflated price of many years.
It is very human pain this. But this is stupid.
Calculating is later stupidity when deciding and going therefore for a bad deal is doubly stupid.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Never allow miserable mentality
Pain and trouble is common to humans,
Yet the full blown miserability personality is problematic on many sides.
It means in a sense giving up on life.
It means exploitation of others.
It means reduce of self
It means bad relationships with others, as good relationships are those where each side is contributing. Being "useful for nothing" is a poor thing for productive relationships
This is the rational approach for life, i always tried to adopt. But i cannot judge poor and miserable people. My advice however, is never allow yourself take this role, it brings bad outcomes.
Yet the full blown miserability personality is problematic on many sides.
It means in a sense giving up on life.
It means exploitation of others.
It means reduce of self
It means bad relationships with others, as good relationships are those where each side is contributing. Being "useful for nothing" is a poor thing for productive relationships
This is the rational approach for life, i always tried to adopt. But i cannot judge poor and miserable people. My advice however, is never allow yourself take this role, it brings bad outcomes.
Monday, November 22, 2010
Having an impulse to what we do not enjoy
This is puzzling. You find yourself ding something very much, without a good reason. And without enjoying it. You saY it is an impulse. Maybe you are right, but it is strange. If you love yorlf you act out of loving a did and out of enjoyment, not out of an impulse that you do not enjoy.
This is true. This is what taught me a happy and smart person, whose first advice for life was " do nkt take life seriously"
Yet, I do not advice fighting ferociously one's impulses. Fighting nature can be worse than accepting it, and it's sometimes stupid. Also, sometimes our impulses are smarter than our logic.
All these distorted and contrived logics for impulses etc. Do not hide the fact that I started with. Remember this!
This is true. This is what taught me a happy and smart person, whose first advice for life was " do nkt take life seriously"
Yet, I do not advice fighting ferociously one's impulses. Fighting nature can be worse than accepting it, and it's sometimes stupid. Also, sometimes our impulses are smarter than our logic.
All these distorted and contrived logics for impulses etc. Do not hide the fact that I started with. Remember this!
Friday, November 19, 2010
Success of courses and tricks unrelated to stated cause
Principles of. Most interventions
You can learn everything
Optimization of a single parameter (inflation of it's effect relative to average)
Supreme skilled teachers, convinces and recruiters
Placebo
The bunch Of effects
Selection who Goes to course
Seeing a course, an experiment, a teach that practically helps people to improve life!
Does it say there is something in the method etc? (assume there'd are tangible real effects)
Following reasons play central role, making it hard to infer about an interesting effect of the putative method.
1) you can learn many things. Proper training. Enouge effort etc. Can make us master very many things. It is no surprise that teaching and training work.
2) optimization of a single parameter can influence the whole disproportionally. (relative to it's effect in the regular case)
Jokes maybe a negligible part of most operations, yet some managers will find jokes to be a central cause of their success and ability to motivate. Some people (I.e. Mark twain) make humor their central way to handle life. Some people manage sleep and rest to have their tanks of energy full most of the time, thereby giving sleep a relatively stronger role than usual (maybe sleep is central for all but this is another story). others use positive thinking. Exercise, timing, etc. As well as many seminar effects taken to an. Unusuall strength by making them central optimized etc. Etc.
Yet that something can artificially under certain conditions have a huge effect does not mean it is easily, generally central. Even that it has the potential for having huge effect maybe very limited to specific people and under very strict conditions.
3) supreme teachers skills, recruiters, sale mans etc.
Much of the effect of a course etc. Is about the teachers psonalty etc. It may say nothing about the putative method etc.
In psychotherapy research shows that it is mostly about the counselor and almost nothing comes out of the method (the difference between most methods of therapy is around zero, it is the effect of the meetings and talking)
4) placebo effect. If taking pills can heal many illnesses (most clinical trials show strong placebo effects, it is our moronic culture that somehow disdains using placebo for healing. I cannot find a more pronounced stupidity)
Having a course is clearly stronger in effect psychologically than a pill.
5) the bunch of effects. Most courses u multiple effects to get the results. It is not the central idea but the combination of many tricks etc. Go figure what is making it work?
5) selection effects. The fact that someone came to a course etc. Is itself meaning a lot. Until you take to the course half of the registrants and commpare to the other registrants you know little.
Skepticism is stupid. If something works who Cares about the reason?
The whole list of logical troubles prevent easy conclusions about the source of successes. But using the tricks etc. May be a good idea.
You can learn everything
Optimization of a single parameter (inflation of it's effect relative to average)
Supreme skilled teachers, convinces and recruiters
Placebo
The bunch Of effects
Selection who Goes to course
Seeing a course, an experiment, a teach that practically helps people to improve life!
Does it say there is something in the method etc? (assume there'd are tangible real effects)
Following reasons play central role, making it hard to infer about an interesting effect of the putative method.
1) you can learn many things. Proper training. Enouge effort etc. Can make us master very many things. It is no surprise that teaching and training work.
2) optimization of a single parameter can influence the whole disproportionally. (relative to it's effect in the regular case)
Jokes maybe a negligible part of most operations, yet some managers will find jokes to be a central cause of their success and ability to motivate. Some people (I.e. Mark twain) make humor their central way to handle life. Some people manage sleep and rest to have their tanks of energy full most of the time, thereby giving sleep a relatively stronger role than usual (maybe sleep is central for all but this is another story). others use positive thinking. Exercise, timing, etc. As well as many seminar effects taken to an. Unusuall strength by making them central optimized etc. Etc.
Yet that something can artificially under certain conditions have a huge effect does not mean it is easily, generally central. Even that it has the potential for having huge effect maybe very limited to specific people and under very strict conditions.
3) supreme teachers skills, recruiters, sale mans etc.
Much of the effect of a course etc. Is about the teachers psonalty etc. It may say nothing about the putative method etc.
In psychotherapy research shows that it is mostly about the counselor and almost nothing comes out of the method (the difference between most methods of therapy is around zero, it is the effect of the meetings and talking)
4) placebo effect. If taking pills can heal many illnesses (most clinical trials show strong placebo effects, it is our moronic culture that somehow disdains using placebo for healing. I cannot find a more pronounced stupidity)
Having a course is clearly stronger in effect psychologically than a pill.
5) the bunch of effects. Most courses u multiple effects to get the results. It is not the central idea but the combination of many tricks etc. Go figure what is making it work?
5) selection effects. The fact that someone came to a course etc. Is itself meaning a lot. Until you take to the course half of the registrants and commpare to the other registrants you know little.
Skepticism is stupid. If something works who Cares about the reason?
The whole list of logical troubles prevent easy conclusions about the source of successes. But using the tricks etc. May be a good idea.
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